Animal Magic Gets Julie Published

March 31, 2013July 22, 2013 Sandra Love Letters book, publish, Publishing a book, self publish, tips, write a book

Julie Lines – International Animal Ambassador, Intuitive animal communicator and facilitator of Animal Communication Play Shops / Retreats, has recently published a very special and unique book. Here she tells us how she champions and channels the voice of animals and this gift has naturally developed into her becoming a published author for the very first time.

Three words to describe me would be Intuitive, Creative and Stubborn(!). A little known fact about me is that I have been a professional fund raiser for many years and have raised money for charities by completing challenging treks in the Arctic, Peru and Namibia.

My book, “The Purpose of Species – Animal Messages for Humanity in 2012 and Beyond” is a collection of 44 messages from different animal species for humanity – guiding our evolution and re-balancing as we move beyond 2012. I first began sharing these messages, as I received them, on my blog and the messages keep coming, so there will be more volumes to follow!

I channelled the messages from the collective consciousness of the different animal species. This book is unique and my aim is to share them with all those that are drawn to listen to them. The animals have so much wisdom to share with us and can help us greatly in returning to balance, living happier, healthier and more abundant lives.

Writing this book (becoming an author) has been something that I have always wanted to do – since I was a youngster. It means a great deal to me and I am keen to share the animal messages as widely as possible around the world, for the good of all.

Professionally, it is a strange thing, but as soon as you publish a book, people seem to treat you differently, it is almost as if you become an expert as soon as the book is available to buy. This is great as it helps me to spread the wisdom the animals have to share and to connect and work with more people.

My top three success tips for writing and publishing are:

1) Follow your heart

2) Be brave and do it anyway

3) Find people that will help you, that know what they are doing!

In terms of getting published I decided to go down the self publication route with Create Space (Amazon owned) and this has worked really well for me – it is free, flexible and pays a really high royalty compared to other publishers. They print on demand and deal with all the packaging and posting. You do have to be prepared and able to market your book for yourself though, or get someone else to market it on your behalf.

Find out more about Julie by checking out her website: http://voiceoftheanimals.org.uk and you can buy her amazing book on Amazon.

How Author Sue Maggott Got Clever with Kindle

March 31, 2013July 22, 2013 Sandra Love Letters book, kindle, publish, Publishing a book, tips, write a book

Sue Maggott – poetess and authoress, tells me how she has recently published two fabulous books on Kindle and shares her publishing tips and techiques:

Sandra asked for 3 words that describe me and I came up with ‘peaceful, poetic, and true’… Next she asked for a little known fact about me… Well – I also believe in the healing power of laughter and so MY little known fact is that I am trained as a Laughter Yoga Leader!

In terms of writing, I have recently produced two books – the first one – The Gift of Inspiration for Female Entrepreneurs I co-authored with a number of inspirational female entrepreneurs; the other, Believe in You. Believe in Your Story, which complements the first book, relates in poetry and prose some of my experiences since taking early retirement from work.

I wrote the first book because I was inspired by a poem I wrote called “Believe!” This poem carried a powerful message to stand up, be bold and to express myself. It also carries an inspirational message to others to do the same. My first book ‘Believe!’ therefore, is a compilation of inspirational stories inspired by the poem.

Personally, the book has demonstrated how easily a project can come together when you collaborate with like-minded, committed people, and when you follow your own inspirational downloads..!

Professionally, I am now looking to develop the ‘Believe!’ project further. Both books are currently in Kindle format, and I am now developing the paperback version ready for launch. For me, the book provides a platform from which I will be able to develop further services around the theme of “Believe!”.

Here are my three top success tips:

1) If you have a great idea, believe in it, and go for it!

2) Get the right support – when writing my second book, I entered a Kindle book challenge operated by the ‘I Am Woman’ business network. This provided me with a deadline, a purpose and great support from a book and a business coach.

3) Be aware that your book may change as you go along, so it is great to have a framework, start writing, and review later.

My advice on getting published is that self publishing is a great option – it is very straightforward to get a book published on Kindle, and also there are lots of options for self publishing in paperback. I would urge people to consider this option, and if it suits your reason for writing a book (e.g. to get your story out to as many people as possible, to become an authority in your field etc), then go for it!

I’m delighted to say, that having mastered Kindle, I am now putting together the paper back version of The Gift of Inspiration for Female Entrepreneurs, which is being launched on the 10th of May and will include four additional uplifting stories.

For her second book Sue worked with a Book Coach from Presland Quirk who are are running their next Book Boot Camp on 10 – 12 May at Newport in Wales. In fact if you act quickly, you can take advantage of their special Easter offer – by taking a friend along, as they’ve got a ’2 for 1′ deal if you sign up by 3rd April. Follow this link for all the information and to book your place…

You can connect with Sue on Facebook and buy her inspirational books on Kindle.

Writing Wisdom – An Interview with Jacqui Malpass

March 31, 2013July 22, 2013 Sandra Love Letters book, book coach, publish, Publishing a book, tips, write a book

As a first time published author I’m delighted to already be working on my second published work – a book collaboration with my fellow Damsels in Success Directors and publishing experts Presland Quirk. Here I interview Jacqui Malpass – one of the partners of Presland Quirk – who shares her expert thoughts on writing and getting published:

Tell me Jacqui, three words that describe you…

Inspiring, Workaholic and Writer.

What is your experience of writing?
I have written for as long as I can remember, from those silly stories about what I did in my summer holidays, to writing and publishing my own books. I feel as if I came out of the womb with a pen in my hand.

What I adore about writing is the truth that it reveals: the truth in your heart and how that connects to other’s hearts. I believe that writing has the power to change lives and no matter how you choose to express your writing it will heal and help you to grow as a person.

I turned to journaling when my life felt like it was in the pits and from my darkest prose, I found light, not only that, I found a way that I could help others to turn a corner, this enabled me to create a book called Writing to Heal. But my dream was to write novels and to allow my imagination run riot and despite my journaling I was stuck until I penned my own memoir which I am releasing in April 2013. As soon as I sent this off to be published it was like a weight was lifted and I am now writing my first novel and loving it. My writing life will never be the same again.

What are your 3 top tips to getting started on writing a book?

« Believe that you can write.

« Create an outline first.

« Know that first drafts are rubbish and the magic happens when you edit.

What is your experience of publishing?
I am a self-published author and what I like is that it puts you in control of your work. It is easy to set up, easy to use and it is empowering to know that the success of your book is your hands.

What are the main reasons that prevent people from getting published?
In my mind the main reasons are:

You think that no one will read your work, so why bother?
Fear of rejection, if you chase the traditional route.
Fear of technology, in as much that you don’t know how self-publishing works.

What is different about what Presland Quirk provides?
We have a unique blend between us, so our clients get all of the talents, skills, and experiences that we both have to offer. We are both very intuitive and spark off each other. When we are working with our clients we are both listening and watching intently, trying to make sense of what is being said to us, what we see and feel and then finding the best most effective way in which one or both of us provides the answer. It is in the power of our collaboration that our clients benefit.

We maintain that anyone can write and with the right support and guidance, that it will be a great book, one which will change our clients’ life and business. We believe that the book is more than just a book, it’s about their personal brand, business, or life story, and we look at how and why their book will help both their business and life be more successful as a result of writing and publishing one. We understand the cathartic process that a writer goes through from idea to publication. As entrepreneurs we know what it’s like to run a business and have to find the time to write and as published authors we know how important it is to write the right book.

Finally we allow our writers to find their unique voice and empower them to take control over what they produce and how they sell it. Best of all, because we teach our customers how to do write, edit, publish, and sell, they stay in control and keep all of the profit from the sale of their books.

I know that you run courses, including your upcoming Boot Camp Weekend, why is that?
We have a dream to inspire as many people as we can to write and this weekend is about helping aspiring writers to find their voice, the one idea and turning it into something that they will be proud to publish and sell. And in making the process easy and stress free, to build our writer’s confidence, so that walk away ready and able to get to first draft and beyond.

What results can people expect from collaborating with Presland Quirk?
They will discover that one book idea which is right for right now. They will know that they can write, have an outline, a writing plan, understand how they work as a writer, what their best strategies are and walk away inspired and motivated to write their book. They will know that we are with them every step of the way.

Providing they put in the effort and write, they will shortly become published authors and have ideas beyond their books for making their businesses more profitable and successful.

Presland Quirk are running their next Book Boot Camp on 10 – 12 May at Newport in Wales. In fact if you act quickly, you can take advantage of their special Easter offer – so you can get even more motivated by taking a friend along, as they’ve got a ’2 for 1′ deal if you sign up by 3rd April. Just follow the link below for all the details…

Follow this link for all the information and to book your place…

Ten Top Tips for Writing a Book!

March 29, 2013July 22, 2013 Sandra Love Letters book, publish, Publishing a book, tips

As part of my ‘Get Your Book Out’ Easter series of blogs, I have been talking to published authors about their strategies for writing and publishing.

Here, author of ‘Hustle Your Way To Property Success’ – Paul Ribbons, tells us more about his book and then gives his top ten tips for writing a book of your own. Like me, Paul worked with ‘Book Midwife’ Mindy Gibbins Klein to get himself published and his word out into the world. Here is his story:

My book is an account of how I became successful in property and has some useful tips for buying great property deals and a system you can use if you so wish. Other than that, as a friends mother who is not into property said “I wish he was my minister at church – very inspirational”.

There are 2 reasons why I wrote the book. The first is because I have always struggled with education (I have no qualifications from school) so part of me wanted to prove I was not thick. Secondly I knew it would be good for business.

Personally, for me, the book has meant more than I thought it would. I feel very proud and now realize that people like what I write. Since then I have written 100’s of blogs, I write for trade magazines and generally write on a regular basis including 2 industry white papers. As my old friend James Lavers said, he loves my writing style.

And business it has helped in attracting JV business partners and positioned me where I wanted to be within the property industry.

Here are my top ten tips for writing a book:

Have an idea. Have a clear and concise idea of what will be in the book.
Map it out. Pick 10 main things you want to include and call these chapters.
Break it down. Then write ten points to be included in each of these chapters.
Start to write. Then write at least 400 words on each of those points.
There you have a book with 10 chapters with 4000 words per chapter, = a 40,000 word book.
A self imposed deadline is essential. I wrote mine over a 2-week period and set myself up with a deadline. I said to my publisher I would get it to her by a certain date.
I did not edit each page, but edited each chapter, this is crucial other wise you won’t even finish the page you’re if you not careful.
It does not have to be perfect. I know mine was not perfect (although my readers tell me otherwise). I could have rewritten it many times and being a perfectionist well!…. but just get it out and don’t worry.
People will read it if it’s authentic!!! . My fear as a sufferer of dyslexia and having no education was, will people read it? Why would they take notice of me?
Then cry your eyes out when the book arrives and you realized a dream.

Want to get started on your own book? My top tip is to get professional support. I can personally recommend Mindy Gibbins Klein – AKA the Book Midwife, whose next course starts in April – check out the details here and Presland Quirk’s Book Bootcamp weekend – both where you will get the time, structure and professional support – to start writing and get published. Heads Up: there is a two for one offer if you book the Book Bootcamp’ by 3rd April! Follow this link for all the information…

How to Get Your Book Out!!!

March 29, 2013July 22, 2013 Sandra Love Letters book, book coach, How to get published, publish

It is Said that Everyone has a Book in Them… So just how DO You Get a Book Out of Your Brain and actually Published???

Author Sandra Peachey published her first book – Peachey Letters in February 2013. It has been featured many times since in local and national press, including Psychologies Magazine. In her latest blog she explores her stories and strategies around getting any book completed and published.

Well it’s about 6 weeks now since my beautiful book was launched. It’s strange that somehow it always feels like it’s been here and somehow, you know, it has always been… Baked into my DNA, nurtured through experience and waiting… Waiting to be crafted and created and bought into being… And now it has been born, and my whole sense of self and the world will never be quite the same again…

It was such a long time coming, decades in fact – even though I have always wanted to be an author and since childhood, a 1000 ideas for plots, strategies and the next ‘great thing’ have swirled endlessly through my head and my heart.

So many things got in the way… time, confidence and know how, to name but a few. And I had another life to lead – one where being a writer was a dream, not a reality, something that I would get around to one day, maybe…

Finally, a year ago, the call to write became so strong, that I just HAD to act on it; and so I set myself a challenge – to write a ‘love letter to life’, on an internet blog – every day of the Valentine month of February.

Challenge is the operative word here! I thought that unless I made a public commitment (to the whole world) and set myself a solid target, it wouldn’t happen – I know me you see and HAD to make this happen!

It was hard work – finding an hour or so a day, fitting it in around a hectic life, baring my soul and my secrets. Yet the process was amazing and enervating too, I analysed my life, freed my emotional demons and worked out a gloriously simple process for for feeling freer and happier – such is the gorgeous, liberating power of writing…

Now maybe you have more pragmatic reasons for wanting to get a book out there – I had those too… The first one being setting out and sharing your expertise for the world to see. Being an author means that you are perceived as an expert and the very act of writing around your expertise means that you research, structure and lay out your store. You share your wisdom, reach out to a wider audience and raise your status in your profession or business. Yes… I had plans for that book too…

I know now that all the reasons that stopped me from writing my glorious novel, were the same that prevented me from writing my meaningful manual too.

So if you want to get your word out there – there is no getting away from it – you have to simply get on and write!

Setting my self the challenge worked, yet it was tough and only half the job! Once I had my first draft and I started working with publishers and editors – they pointed out that I simply could not print my blog off and hey presto! I had to come up with and craft a structure, turn a blog into a book, supervise a number of edits, choose a cover, etc etc and so on… There is more to writing a book than just writing a book!

Would I change a thing now – no?! But could I have made the whole process easier and quicker and have got guaranteed, professional results from the off – well yes! Thank goodness I enlisted the services and support of Book Midwife Mindy Gibbins-Klein to turn my blog into a book, but still I could have had that support from day one, as Mindy offers a whole range of services.

I’m delighted to say that I am well and truly bitten by the writing bug and already I’ve started on my second publication. This time though, right from the off, I’m getting professional support, structure and guidance.

Currently I’m working on a collaborative book project supported by publishing duo ‘Presland Quirk‘, 2 publishing experts who supportively know their stuff. Jacqui Malpass and Cathy Presland are fun to work with and also get you to the right bookish results by giving you the expertise, structure and quality time to create your masterpiece and get it published. They guide you with professionalism, humour and a publisher’s insider understanding of your unique needs.

I am enjoying the whole creative and structural process, which is why I’m delighted that Presland Quirk are now sharing the love and running a public course in May – which means that, at last – you can get your book out! Over the course of 2 days you will get the time, guidance and know how to become a published author.

In fact if you act quickly, they even have a special Easter offer – so you can get even more motivated by taking a friend along. They’ve got a ‘2 for 1’ thing going on if you sign up by 3rd April. Just follow the link below for all the details…

Check it out, and do let me know when you have written your book. I can highly recommend that amazing moment when you see your first ever copy!

The course runs from mid day Friday – Sunday, 10 – 12 May 2013. At Newport in Wales.

Follow this link for all the information and to book your place…

Why Blogging is Good for Business

March 29, 2013July 22, 2013 Sandra Love Letters Blog, Blogging, Blogs, marketing, PR, Publishing

Sandra Peachey – Business Coach and Author blogs about why Blogging is good for business! She shares her tips on how to get started and how to improve your blogging for business…

In February 2012 I started a personal blog called Peachey Letters… A year later my blog has had 1000s of hits from 26 countries and has been turned into a book, giving me publicity and recognition that I could never even of dreamt of when I started!

Why Blog?

Blogging tells the world that you are an ‘Expert’ in what you do – the services and products you provide. Used well you can gain the interest of potential customers and encourage them to buy more of your products. With blogging people can get to know and trust you – spending ‘time’ with you before they buy. And it also gives you have the perfect opportunity to keep reminding people about what you do and being in their consciousness, so that when the time comes to buy, they think of you…

The great thing about blogging is that it requires no financial outlay to get started. It beefs up your business credentials and if used cleverly, can be re-used and recycled – posted on social media, on other people’s blogs and in your newsletters – maximizing your time and effort.

How do I get started?

Check to see if your website has blogging functionality – most do. Even without a website you can get started quickly – Blogger and WordPress both offer free platforms and then you are also part of a blogging community which can give you global exposure. If getting stuck on the technology is what is preventing you from getting started, then get some help – most website designers can help you, or you can check out a Freelancers hub site like Elance or Fiver, or even find a friend or colleague who has already set up their own blog and ask for a favour or a service swop.

How and what do I write?

Be wary of selling! Always be of a mindset that you are sharing useful tips, strategies and information. Never be afraid of sharing some of your ‘trade secrets’ – this means that you stay on your toes and will consistently provide better services for your clients.

For subject matter – think of the time of the year, issues that are in the news, new products and services that you are offering. Or maybe there is something that doesn’t seem related to your business that you are passionate about – that’s how I got started! Blog about your real passions – the energy and authenticity this brings to your blogging will make you different from most people that share your marketplace. If you are happy to share things going on in your life – people love the ‘soap opera’ saga of someone else’s life, and course – always make the connection back to your products and services.

Never be afraid to be bold or controversial – again – it makes you stand out!

The simplest and most useful tip I can give you to structure and give subject matter to any blog is to answer 1-3 questions around a subject, service, theme, etc. Sometimes you can make it as obvious as how I have structured this blog, or simply use this thought process to shape your piece as you write it.

Finally – Make the Offer!

When you have shared your tips and strategies, then you can lead people to what you currently have to offer. As my example, I am currently giving one to one blog checks for beginners and improvers for just £10. This will get you started, motivated and inspired to get your message out into your market place. If you already have a blog then I will audit it and show you how to make it even more effective, getting more hits and more selling exposure. Just click here to find out more and book your 1:1 blogging session.

If you feel you are ready to take things to the next level and get a book out into the world, then my recommendation is a weekend long course held by two of my favourite book collaborators – Presland Quirk Limited. Their Best Seller Bootcamp will give you everything you need to get your book out including time, structure and publishing know how. Follow this link to find out more…

Sandra Peachey works with businesses to turn their passion into profitable enterprises and achieve their market goals. Her first book Peachey Letters – Love Letters to Life was published in February 2013; has been featured in local and national press, including Psychologies and The Lady magazines; and is available in paperback and Kindle from Amazon or via her website.

Peachey Letters Book Launches

January 24, 2013July 22, 2013 Sandra Love Letters book launch, Peachey Letters, Publishing

Can you remember the letters you have written and received in your life? The news, the joy, the ups, the downs… the bills, the love letters..?

Well, as Valentines Day approaches I am introducing my own book of Love Letters to the world… As a coach, consultant and trainer – I’m on a mission to share the simple process I went through – to heal, enjoy and love my life and in doing so – support others to do the very same. My intensely personal letters entertain, emote and are written in my own, often poetic voice. Peachey Letters – Love Letters to Life is my exploration and celebration of love in all its’ mysterious aspects. In it I write to the people, phenomena and happenings that have touched my life – in ways tremendous and trivial.

It all started as my Peachey Letters Blog, where I analysed, let go and celebrated my own crazy and amazing life; along the way becoming my own best coach. The Blog has already reached out to thousands of people around the world, many of whom have been inspired to resolve issues in their own lives and to write their own ‘love letters’ too.The unprecedented response I have received (See some of the feedback here…), means that Blog now becomes Book and so I am inviting you to TWO Launch Events to welcome Peachey Letters into the world.

The London Book Launch is the first official event – all are welcome, you just need to register your place on-line, at the link below – you can also opt to purchase an advance copy of the book which you can collect on the evening. Lucie Bradbury – Founder of Damsels in Success will be introducing both events, other speakers are to be confirmed.

The Leamington launch is combined with fund raising for Parkinsons, the condition that my mother lived with for over 15 years. She passed away in July 2012 during the writing of my book and so this launch is dedicated to her. The money raised will go to Parkinson’s UK – to support and research into this debilitating neurological condition.The two events have been created to be two different experiences – do feel free to register – for one, the other or both.

THE LONDON BOOK LAUNCH

Date: 7 February 2013, 6 – 8 pm

Venue: 8 Northumberland – 8 Northumberland Avenue, London, WC2N 5BY

Cost: Entry Free or pre-buy your author signed book for just £10.00 (retail £11.99), as well.

To reserve your Free Place – please follow this link
To reserve your Free Place with Pre-buy Book, please follow this link

THE LEAMINGTON SPA LAUNCH AND PARKINSON’S FUND RAISER

Date: 12 February 2013, 6 – 8 pm

Venue: Episode Hotel – 64 Upper Holly Walk, Leamington Spa, CV32 4JL

Cost: Ticket £3.99 or Ticket Plus – secure your place & pre-buy your signed book for £11.99 *

To purchase your Ticket – please follow this link
To purchase your Ticket with Pre-buy Book, please follow this link

* Books will also be on sale at both events

Like all good parties, you are asked to RSVP – so please confirm your attendance by following one of the links above and securing your place.

If you are unable to join me at either of the launches, then you can still purchase your own copies of the book, at the special pre-publication price of £10.00, up until the second launch date, (when the prices increase to the cover price of £11.99 and p&p will also be added) or from Amazon and at all good book shops at full price!

I do hope you can join me for what will be two extra-ordinary events in this Peachey life.

With warm regards

Sandra Peachey

Author of Peachey Letters

Letter to My Father – Video Version

Video January 5, 2013January 15, 2013 Sandra Love Letters Daughter, Father, Letters

Here I read aloud the Letter to my Father, accompanied with precious photos of our lives…

And for more photos and the written word too – my Peachey Letters have now been published – follow this link to find out more…

Sandra Peachey

Author – Peachey Letters, Love Letters to Life

Letter to a New Year

December 31, 2012January 3, 2015 Sandra Love Letters New Year Resolutions

Dear Friend

So another year has wound down and it’s time to celebrate and start again…

To ‘start again’ if only to break in a new calendar… To learn to live in a new year and to remember to write 2015 instead of 2014 – whenever I mark the day… To decide what this year is for – what will continue, what will end and what will begin… again..? Since it is the again time as well as the fresh start time.

Time is marked by the passing of days, then weeks along with months, and so seasons turn into years… And as every day is the seed of a new start, so comes the new year, fresh with promise, ready to grow and give, and ready too to change and reinforce.

This is traditionally time to ‘resolute’ – to resolve the future with goals and games – now named resolutions… Time to fix, to change, to plan, to expect, to shape, to realise, to escape, to grow, to mutate, to travel or maybe, finally to stand still…

Or it can be a ‘good riddance that’s over’ time, or ‘I don’t bother with resolutions because I don’t keep them’ time… or, for many, it’s simply another day… or yet still a day to be shunned as non special for as many reasons as there are people on this planet…

And though a common enough human experience, with the calendar clicking around again, each New Years Eve is composed of each of our own memories, thoughts and feelings, the circumstances of so many happenings, on so many levels, so it is also entirely our own…

And will THIS new years eve make a difference or simply be another day sailed upon in the sea of your life..?

Time to decide, time to collude, to now set intentions that will actually turn into actions… So easily said…

So how to commit to a chain of real changes..? To commit in this context is to state – to write, to speak, to share…

First of all, create the container to claim and then draw your dreams, promises and plans… A journal, a piece of paper, a keyboard (with CPU and screen attached of course), or a flipchart – or what ever works for you, that you can come back to and review…

Do this in a ‘party’ where you can – share with a friend, on a forum, publish on line – your PUBLIC commitment will mean so much more… For THIS purpose (and for so many others), remember to seek the people that will nurture your desires and support you in giving them wings…

Make this creation a ceremony… Light a candle, or dance a dance, or what ever works for you; design your own ritual – to mark the boundaries of these new beginnings…

Now set your intentions… Decide to let new thoughts flow, new ideas download, decide to let your intuition rule and your heart have its way… Now is the time to feel, see, hear, taste and touch your schemes and dreams, and to literally let them take flight!

Now scribe! Simply ‘heart storm’ – fling down anything and everything that comes into your heart, into your brain, into your gut and your senses – write it, draw it or scrawl it – just let it out and get it out!

Now look your scribings over – is there a sense, a pattern, what are the priorities..? Here your head can join in, but not take over… If you are with others – talk this through – what within your heart stormings will mark out this new year for you..? What will flavour it, shape it and fly it to fruition?

Pick out the priorities – feel your way over them… Then create the final list or picture or graph or map… This is now refined to encompass the year ahead – clearly defined for your heart to own and structurally outlined for your head to action…

Now give your goals air – breath them, speak them, share them, publish them, post them on a wall…

Then seal the deal – state your commitment – how will you ensure this happens..?

Answer these questions and add the answers to your plan:

* How will you know if your resolutions have happened?
* How will you feel when the HAVE happened?
* What will have changed as a result? And…
* What will happen if they do NOT come to pass..?

To move from Dream to Action, now ask and answer:

* What now are your actions?
* When will you take them?
* Who completes them. You or will you share or delegate?
* Where will they take place?
* And how will they take place – these are the fine details…

And these answers now are your Action Wings, they cannot survive on paper alone and cannot grow in the dark. Move now, flow forward at what ever pace works for you, and take them one simple step at time.

This is your Yearling Plan, so promise to visit and revisit your intentions, like old friends – so set the reminders in your calendar or diary now, with your friends, with your forum, with your tribe – at least once a month, for the year ahead. And as you revisit your resolutions, revisit your resolution ritual too – renew the spirit of the New Year, of that special energy that you created and committed to at the beginning, and this means you are bringing it back in to your plans and actions again where ever you are in time, how ever you feel, what ever has changed…

And through the year, know that it is all good that the resolutions will flex and they will resolve and they will alter and they will be and they will exceed… As you live and relive them and nurture them along, they will unfurl and uncoil or explode or simply transpire… So let them…

This is YOUR year… so have it – love it and live it, with your dreams and goals and perfect plans giving it wonderful wings…

So here’s to 2015… the year of..?

Yours, already, with surprise and delight…

Sandra

PS: Grab the opportunity to embrace the New Year energy to start a new project, get something off the ground, clear some blockages, or get a fresh perspective, by having a New Start Coaching session, at a specially reduced price – all the details are here…

Letter to Christmas Expectations

December 20, 2012December 9, 2014 Sandra Love Letters

Dear Friend

Tan tar a! Tan tan tar a..! An expectant fanfare announces that the big day is nearly here…

So Christmas is a-coming and with it our expectations – conscious or unconscious – are building… Building and growing – waiting to peak in a day of cosy rosy picture postcard family lugubriousness, or growing like mushrooms in our unlit subconscious, silently waiting for a glory day of mirth and merriment, or a gory day of festive misery…

And yuletide logs are thrown onto the fire of our expectations by the retail world – assaulted as we are with adverts and offers and reminders and jingles from (at least) November onwards… Gah! – I loathe doing Christmas too soon! I want my expectation to build slowly and in due order and in MY Christmas book – that cannot happen at least until mid December…

Then I shall stoke my own festive fire thank you and will dust off the Christmas music and journey into the loft to liberate the decorations. Then I will doff the Santa hat (pink of course) and the angel earrings. Then I will eat mince pies, drink mulled wine and strange spirits (like port and advocaat) so my taste buds will know that there will be a blow out of huge calorific proportions to come. That there will be one day and one day alone when I shall eat Christmas pudding (don’t like it that much, so once is enough thank you very much). And, there is a countdown so that the very same taste buds can’t wait to partake of a foodie feasting day and my greed will dictate that my stomach can anticipate stretched and loaded fullness yet again.

For many, it will simply be ‘another day’, for Christmas nay sayers and don’t carers and people of other cultures and beliefs. For shift workers – it can be the same old same old, or else the addition of Santa hat and a mince pie, along with Yuletide bonhomie will tincture it differently and either make it harder (to make the effort to be there) or lighter and easier because you are there in full Christmas swing. And always – know it or not, there will be expectation…

This is an expectation built on millennia of anticipation – a Christian celebration of the birth of a saviour; of more recent culture and custom demanding that we eat, drink, party and give gifts. Ah – the anticipation of gifts, even for the adult… a sense of jumping back into childhood – waiting for Father Christmas – to unwrap and reveal treasures intended for us, for those things we childishly craved… that moment of feeling the parcel, of rattling it and weighing it up – guessing what lies within. The joy of recognition (I got what I wanted) or surprise (an unexpected and cherished gift).

So if as adults, we experience a certain neutrality around receiving and unwrapping – is that born out of the fact that we have done this so many times in our lives; or that we insulate ourselves against the disappointments of more socks and bath cubes; or that some one some where buys us stuff and doesn’t know or care what is that we really want or that would really deliciously please us???

And the expectation is a commercialisation too of our sensibilities – that we should be connected families, that we should be jolly and merry and bright; that Christmas is a day of love and light… That the normal rules do not apply and every one will ‘behave’ and be happy. So if Christmas is instead a day of shade and shadow – darkened by our heightened expectations, worn out by toil and tears, somehow the weight is more. The gathering clouds of subconscious script spew forth acid rain on our brains and in our hearts. This should be perfect day is angry, is dull, is lacking and is more so, because of a set of failed expectations, all balled up into one calendar day…

And I know those whose expectations lead them to loathe Christmas – they had bad Christmases past, where someone died or got divorced or beaten or forgotten or what ever bombshell sticks in the brain, this being glued to Christmas, to trigger off more bad memories and the anticipation of dread and repetition.

Yet these happenings are not Christmas, they may have been magnified by the expectation – an opposition of Christmas joys, yet they really are separate.

We can all choose our Christmas, in that it is after all, as well as a communal holiday – a state of mind. Even better when it becomes a matter of heart, or heart over matter. Let’s create our own Christmas – where we take the opportunity to kick back, relax, connect and hyperlink to the best parts of our childhood, or what ever way would be the best way for us to celebrate and cherish and relish what we have; feeding from the positive energy that so many are contributing into and not buying into anticipated angst.

Consciously create your very own positive expectations… feel Christmas coming like a tingle, a simple gorgeous shiver… and enjoy this moment… this reality now – shaped by what is to come – but not making it all dependent on then. And if this is a burden, then simply think about the feelings you would choose to have and that will start to raise the dark curtains of impending doubt, rather than focussing on them…

So Christmas is all about expectation – we wait a full year for it after all, and having waited, let’s make the most of it and not fall into the least of it.

I expect Christmas will be what it will be after all, and I’ll choose Choicemas instead of Crisismas any day.

With love, as always