Letter to Visibility

Dear Visibility

I am an author, coach and blogger, to name but few of my life labels.  I have recently been shortlisted for a coaching award; and a year ago I published my first book Peachey Letters – Love Letters to Life, which has been defining, amazing and absolutely life changing…

A year on and I’m pondering about being ‘out there’… There was a time, when I lived in a structured world of work, rest and play.  I was defined by my routine, by doing my work – getting a sense of significance from it, sometimes satisfied by it, sometimes stressed.  And after work I would fill my time and my head with friends and social situations and other distracting stuff.

And now here I am… Strange times… Strange times..?  Strange times!!! 

I work, still, in the corporate world from time to time, I coach my own clients to achieve their dreams and goals, I run my own women’s group, as part of the sisterhood of Damsels in Success.  And more than that, my first book is all about my inner and outer life, my own iselfish sharing stories of my journey from day, to thought, to year, to who knows where.

My book started as a blog and in it I analyse, I love, I let go and coach myself through the ups and downs, ins and outs, ebbs and flows of my life.  The first time I published the first post online I really had second thoughts.  Surely if I pressed the button and put it out there, I’d be judged, laughed at and possibly worse.  Cringe time…

Knowing me as I do, I know these thoughts, these patterns, these cyclical chidings that circle in my head.  So I published any way… The lid was off the box, the cat out of the bag and my stuff was well and truly out there…  Peachey Letters was, is and will be…

It still feels vulnerable to share my stories sometimes and at other times I forget that people know so much about me, and pass by in the world in forgotten innocence that I dared to share… But can I tell you too, from so much fabulous feedback, from so many, that this sharing has touched people, has healed, has changed, has entertained and has turned things around.  So peeling off the plaster of vulnerability is not something I am ever going to regret in this lifetime…

I am passionate about giving support, of giving my gifts to the world and so too I ask for recompense in return, as a fair exchange of energy, yet still, I can feel uncomfortable, pushy and ugly and so I have had to learn to put myself out there, to dare to show up and shine, no matter what.  To seek attention, to say ‘here is me, here is what I do, it is unique, it is gorgeous and it makes a difference…’

And one thing I have learned about life, is that I have to learn my lessons again and maybe again.  So, right now I have been shortlisted for a Coaching Award, as Women’s Coach with the Association of Professional Coaches, Trainers and Consultants (APCTC).  I have already been nominated a times in the past few years for these awards, so really was gratified, but not attached when I received my 3rd nomination this year.  Then, to my surprise – nomination changed to shortlist and shortlist is decided by a public (online) vote. 

So I am out there again – asking, sharing, daring to say this is who I am – please recognise and support me.  It has frequently been uncomfortable, getting out of my comfort zone – waving and pointing and requesting.  Then again discomfort is more than recompensed by the good wishes, and happy acquiescence.  I have had so so much to be thankful for, to so many people.

And I have gorgeous coaching clients, in all the spheres I work in, who know they have so much to give, have a craving to share and yet, something holds them back.

Actually for something, read many things.  There can be our cultural expectations of not publically praising yourself; of wondering if you are nothing special; of thinking that lots of people are already doing what you want to do.  And how about that dark, dangerous voice in your head – ‘who DO you think you are?’

So we have to learn to shine our light out into the world.  If we don’t shine, who will see, who will know, who will be touched or changed and who will stay in the darkness???

Let’s take this a step further – where is your sense of significance? Is it in waiting for someone else to say, ‘yes you can?’ or is it time to listen instead to a deeper calling to make a difference?  Really – only YOU know the answer to this, but to know, you have to go out there, to do, to speak, to act – to trade your gifts with the world.

The voting for the award ends on Friday 28 February 2014. If you haven’t voted yet, I would really appreciate you taking the short time to cast your vote, here online…

So here is the thing – if I win, that will be truly amazing.  If not, then I won’t be crushed.  I put myself out there, I pushed through the discomfort, I asked and I have been rewarded over and over in positive responses.  I have learnt and I have grown and I have shown the way to any one else who wants to see the possibilities. 

Hey, it’s a cliché, but that already makes me a winner… And THAT thought is delicious and I am so enjoying the experience, what ever the outcome…

Here I am world!

ImageHere’s to shining and sparkling then…

  Sandie xxx


Conquer Your Inbox and have more time to do what you Love in February!

ImageHave you had a productive and juicy January?  I can’t believe that February is here already, can you?  I definitely getting into the swing of 2014 and am having a good old clear out and sort out!  As well as the usual life laundry of sorting and chucking, I’m also getting more organised with my finances, my office and my email Inbox.  I’m really busy with my corporate clients and Damsels in Success business at the moment, and whilst I love that, with 2 new books in the pipeline, I’m itching to do more writing too…
So it is an absolute necessity for me to get supported and organised.  Rather than get overwhelmed, I am focussed on asking for support and delegating where ever I can. And when it comes to being more organised, at times like these, dealing with emails can either feel like they are eating into my precious time, or being guiltily forgotten whilst they continue to breed, mushroom like, in the darkness of my ignored Inbox!
I am delighted to announce therefore that the guest speaker at my February Damsels in Success event, is email expert and overwhelm banisher – Kate Gerry of http://www.kategerry.com.  
So I wonder, does any of this sound familiar to you:

  • Opening your Inbox makes every day feel like a to do list that you didn’t get round to yesterday?
  • Your workflow keeps on being interrupted throughout the day by a constant barrage of emails?
  • You are constantly worried about missing (or even worse, losing) important emails coming in?
  • You have EVER spent a Sunday trying to catch up ready for Monday morning..?

If you would like to get cleverer with emails, then join us for our next meeting, where Kate will show you her strategic steps to keeping your Inbox clear for good – in less than 30 minutes a day! 
At our live training event, Kate will also reveal:

  • The top 3 reasons most business owners don’t keep their Inbox clear and what to do so you never get caught out again! 
  • The Number 1 secret that will give you more time with your family and your weekends back instantly! 
  • How she helped her accountant to save over 7.5 hours a week, just by being more efficient with her email inbox! (How many hours do you waste on YOUR Inbox?)
  • How to use your Smartphone to stay organised – instead of ruining your day when you get bombarded with a whole heap of emails hitting your Inbox!  

So… to discover a fun, easy way to cut through your email overwhelm, spend less time in your Inbox and more time focused on the things you love, simply book yourself onto our guest list here to join us for our February meeting, on Wednesday 19 February, in Ashby de la Zouch, at 6.30 pm.
Well, February IS the Valentine month, so let’s spend it doing more of what we love!
I look forward to seeing you on the 19th 🙂
With love and laughter
Sandra Peachey
Coach, Author and Director at Damsels in Success
* Author of Peachey Letters – Love Letters to Life as featured in local press, Psychologies, The Lady & The BBC!
* Co-author of ‘The F-Factor’ – the blueprint for entrepreneurial women to have Success without the Stress
* Winner at the 2013 ‘Women Inspiring Women’ Awards
* Nominee in two categories in the ‘Association of Professional Coaches, Trainers & Consultants’ Awards, 2012 & 2013
Tel. 07921 494363

Tel. 07921 494363