Calm in the Time of Corona

So… At an office somewhere, someone was angry and she was yelling at me…

I stayed calm, listened, applied logic…
But logic and anger do not necessarily go hand in hand…
I wasn’t enjoying the exchange, but chose to stay outwardly calm.
But maybe that annoyed her even more… She kept on shouting…
Still I stayed calm on the surface (not so much deep down, in truth), so next she yelled one of those potentially ‘combustible bomb’ questions at me; with the kind of furious logic that only an angry person can hurl, with all their strength, to demand a yes or no answer, which you could never get right…
“I’m not going to answer that” I replied, “because it’s your ANGER talking right now – not YOU.”
She stopped dead in her tracks.
“That’s true” she said and just like that, the anger evaporated, right then and there….
And then we resolved the ‘angry’ issue together – softly and sanely…
We had never discussed choosing a response, rather than simply responding in kind, but in that moment I was blown away how the realisation hit her and she let the anger go…
Together we had outed it, and suddenly it had no power over us…

That was nearly 2 years ago and I had totally forgotten the conversation, until she reminded me of it, last week.

She told me it pretty much changed her view of anger since she had a realisation that just because someone throws it at you, you don’t have to throw it back – instead you can CHOOSE how to respond.
And I was blown away… AGAIN.

So, we both chose a response and in turn, can remember that lesson, maybe in the next minute or two years later.

You can drop a stone into a pond or drop a pearl into it – they will both ripple outwards…

And we never know how the water will ripple, radiate and who or how it might touch…

But sometimes we get to see… and then, how blessed are we..???

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