Time to Celebrate and say Farewell to 2013

ImageBefore we start on the business of the New Year, let’s celebrate the outgoing one by listing all the good things about 2013 and our reasons to be grateful for it. Maybe you feel there is little to shout about, so I ask you to trust the process and see the good in your life snowball as more and more things come to mind and heart. You can allow for regrets, but not NOW for regrets.

So here is MY list in progress…. A manifesto of celebration…


  • Special simple moments shared with friends
  • Lots of laughter
  • Time with children and seeing the world through their eyes
  • Baby news
  • Realising my dream of publishing a book, one I still can’t quite believe actually came out of me, and for which I will always be so proud…
  • Being a Damsels in Success Director, having the privilege of supporting gorgeous women to shine their light in the world
  • Sharing Vickie’s & Rob’s wedding day with so many friends, and so proud / happy to do a reading
  • Delicious meals, created or bought, and all devoured
  • Such a lot of sunshine
  • Taking long lovely walks in this beautiful country I live in
  • Cat companionship, with purrs and furry fun
  • Winning a Women Inspiring Women Award
  • Doing what I was born to do – coach… Supporting, enabling, witnessing miracles
  • Doing what I was born to do – write… It has always been in me and now it is quite literally, unleashed!
  • Doing what I was born to do – speak and share, bear witness and make a difference.
  • Sing! Alone, in a crowd, in a choir, with a rock n roll microphone and 200 accompanyists
  • Co-write and launch my 2nd book with my sister Damsels in Success Directors – ‘writing with ease’, indeed!
  • 3 book launches – amazing madness, is this really me??? Yes, this IS me!
  • Being changed for ever, stepping up and out
  • Surrendering to the things that could not be changed, instead of being tortured by them… after being tortured by them…
  • Being fabulous! I decided long ago that I would improve with age and safe to say, I have , this has come with more confidence and acceptance. It is always balanced out with doubt and fear, yet the positivity and the fabulousness always win through in the end…
  • Sharing a farewell to a special someone with friends, with tears in my eyes and having the joy of knowing such a person as this…
  • A bounty of hugs
  • Me, Sue and Pinda in our special, happy bubbles of time together
  • A big birthday, such a big deal and yet not a big deal…
  • Catching up with old friends
  • Making new friends and connections, with the promise of who knows what to come???
  • Conversations – short and long. Exchanges, updates, gossip, triviality and the serious – etc and so on…
  • Selling stuff and services that make a difference
  • Yummy wine and cocktails. Champagne cheers!
  • Dancing – when I was really in the groove baby!
  • Social media and ego addiction – thank you for all the positive comments, praise, pictures and vastly shared wisdom and connection xx
  • Cupcakes… nom…
  • All the PR I could never have dreamt of even a short while ago, in magazines and newspapers, being on the BBC and beyond. I always wanted to be in Psychologies Magazine and then a double page spread in The Lady – what bonkers bliss! Some special people found these opportunities and so I owe them a big debt for collaborating with me – my success is definitely your success too xx
  • Feeling proud when friends have been delighted with my success
  • Learning to let go with love those who don’t want to share the journey any more, giving me time and space to let in the new…
  • Being OK with not being OK. I ‘support’ because it’s my true vocation and also because I want it in MY life. I find life hard, but I find it good too… That is my roller coaster and I don’t think it will ever change, so I always thank God for the good.
  • Texts that made my heart soar
  • Celebrating friends good news and good times
  • Being an author – speaking, signing books and being showcased.
  • Being: Sandra Peachey – Author, Coach and Director at Damsels in Success
  • Being at home and away. My sofa, sailing and chateaus…
  • My fricking amazing life!!!

And I will keep adding to this…

Thank you and farewell to an amazing year…

From S xx

I have taken my Peachey Letters and turned them into a book, which you can buy just about any where in the world. With new and remembered material, they come together to show me and you, that life is worth living, loving and celebrating… It has been featured in the national press and received amazing reviews… Buy it in Paperback from any well known book site or in Kindle on Amazon

Not ANOTHER New Year / New You Posting – Pleeeeese!

Oh Heck – Not ANOTHER New Year / New You Posting – Pleeeeese!

“The merry year is born, like the bright berry from the naked thorn.
~ Hartley Coleridge

How was your Christmas?? Well the ‘Twelve Days’ aren’t even over yet and my tree and decorations are still up… but now it feels like it is time to look forward…   And the New Year is nearly here…  So – will it be back to reality and to the same old same old in 2014?
Now I don’t know about you – but I have already seen so many of those emails and postings about a New year / a New you, and what a good time it is to start diets, launch a business, buy this perfect product and so on and so on…  and blah blah blah… And yes – I could even be guilty of having written a few of those myself…
So here are a few of my own observations on the New Year subject… I know that for me – there is a very definite ‘New Year, New Start’ energy… Maybe it’s because I’ve had a rest and taken a break from ‘the norm’, but I am genuinely raring to go and have already got round to loads of niggling little jobs that I have been meaning to get around to for months.  I’ve been cleaning and sorting and arranging and planning and getting ready to face the New!
I’ve decided to deliberately embrace the New Year flow and go where the energy takes me and to capitalise on it – even taking a little longer to ‘get back to the day job’ so I can enjoy myself and feel great about what I am acheiving effortlessly, in the meantime.

I have had just the most amazing 12 months, publishing 2 books, speaking to capacity crowds and fulfilling my ambitions to appear in Psychologies Magazine and on the BBC!   And there are more plans afoot for the coming year, where I will be supporting more people in writing and publishing THEIR books too…   So it is most definitely time to be asking myself some big questions for the year ahead, and putting wings to my prayers – taking the action that will turn them from plans to reality.
Yet I am just as guilty as anyone of not keeping New Years Resolutions, as the pages on the calendar turn and life carries us along.   So how DO we make our new year good plans and intentions actually stick???  
Well, that is where my next Damsels in Success event comes in, because to make this planning malarkey a completely ‘success with ease’ process – Burton members and guests will be ‘Goal Setting for Goddesses’ together, so that we will all create our own 2014 the way we want it… And the reason this whole process will be easier is that it has been designed for women, by women; we will walk through it together; then really commit to it and together hold each other to support and to account – giving our goals real wings and the genuine chance to make a difference to our lives.

It all happens on 15 January in Leicestershire, just sign up online for your fab free place, here…
And here are more ways I can support you and your Goddess Goals too…

Firstly my complimentary gift to you, is my Peachey Process to help you set gentle goals that will actually ‘stick’, in the form of my Peachey Letter to New Years Eve, for you to read, reflect and take action on…

Secondly, the next level of support I can offer you, is individual.  I get incredible results Coaching and Mentoring my cherished clients on a one to one basis, and if you are ready to take things to the next level, in life and business too, I have a special offer on a Fast Track Coaching session – find out more here…

If you have any comments or questions on this months newsletter, let me know….   And that, was all the latest Peachey News, Views, Offerings and Opinions for now…
Here’s to a delightful and delicious January, and an amazing 2014, for all of us.

With love and laughter…
Sandra Peachey
Coach, Author and Director at Damsels in Success
* Author of Peachey Letters – Love Letters to Life as featured in local press, Psychologies, The Lady & The BBC!
* Co-author of ‘The F-Factor’ – the blueprint for entrepreneurial women to have Success without the Stress
* Winner at the 2013 ‘Women Inspiring Women’ Awards
* Nominee in two categories in the ‘Association of Professional Coaches, Trainers & Consultants’ Awards, 2012 & 2013

Tel. 07921 494363

Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas… With ‘Ease’…

“There is no ideal Christmas; only the one Christmas you decide to make as a reflection of your values, desires, affections and traditions.”
~ Bill McKibben

How is this December day finding you?  And do you love this time of year or dread it?  I ask because I’m completely in to the whole 12th month vibe, with its’ coldly crisp sunny days and the countdown to Christmas; yet I know too it can be stressful for so many women, with a 1001 tasks to complete, people to please and the ‘day job’ to fit in around it all too!

As part of MY own Christmas preparations, you may know that I have a habit of writing ‘Love Letters to Life’ – the first collection of which came out as a book this year.  As an early Christmas gift to you, here is my ‘Letter to December’…  sent with warm festive wishes…  Click here for the letter…

So that is one view of December and recently a friend was sharing with me how much she dreads this time of year, as some sad things happened to her in the past, and so the advent of Advent brings it all back.   I wonder then if Christmas is a choice?  Has Christmas just ‘happened’ to that lady that dreads it and need these feelings continue for her and for us all?

I know I often unconsciously look for things to throw onto the bonfire of worry and stress – in fact last year I had been quietly fretting about having my first ever Christmas without my mum (who passed away in the summer of 2012), but then, instead, I got to spend my first Christmas day ever with young children; and you know what – I saw it through their eyes, got up with them at the crack of dawn (when all the other adults were still snoozing) and just loved the whole experience; so the Universe more than compensated me for what I thought was going to be huge hole…

There seems to be a certain irony that though Christmas is about celebration and enjoyment, even the quietest ones seem to come with all the stresses of pleasing family and friends, as well as all the shopping, cooking, eating, socialising, writing, wrapping, and rushing around that it can so easily entail.

So how about we consider that our Christmas IS a choice and we can choose a ‘Christmas with Ease’?  A Christmas created by us, ditching guilt or necessity, an experience that serves us and nurtures us, so that when we are ‘filled up’ we can do the same for those around us with love and vibrant energy?  Each of our Christmases is OUR Christmas after all, isn’t it?

As well as Christmas on the horizon, Damsels in Success has been keeping me gloriously occupied, with live events for my beautiful Burton group and new local members joining, as well as our conference – IGNITE! 2013 held last month.  As a result of IGNITE! our fabulous personal development community gained new members across the UK – as we gave great value with amazing speakers, saw many light bulb moments for our delegates, and received fabulous feedback for a life changing and inspiring 2 days.  Below is just one of the many pictures I have to prove it (for more pics, check out all the photos on Facebook, here)!

Now Christmas is nearly here, I’m extending a warm invitation to you to come along to my next Damsels in Success event, being held in Ashby de la Zouch (Leicestershire) on the evening of Wednesday 18th December.  Our theme this month, you won’t be surprised to learn, is ‘Christmas with Ease’.

So… do you do Christmas with stress, excess or smooth success? At Damsels in Success we definitely believe in having a Christmas with Ease, so together let’s celebrate, organise, enjoy… and along the way – give something back – to our world and to the world at large…

Infused with fun, laughter and learning this will be a fabulous way to get set for Christmas – which is why we are deliberately holding it the week before, when ironically we could be tempted into doing other Christmassy things…  It is free for all first timers and all we ask is that you register your place on-line here to secure your place… 

And to make your Christmas even MORE easy, I have a special offer for you – to buy my book – Peachey Letters in a bundle with the Damsels in Success Book The F-Factor.  Together the normal combined retail price is £21.99, but MY book bundle is just £14.00 (inc postage, in the UK).  Check out all the details here and buy bundles of beautiful books for you AND for loved ones…

It’s time to wind down now – I’m allowing myself space to slow down before Christmas and give myself time to smell the poinsettias…  So what ever YOUR December dreams are, here’s to them coming deliciously true…

With warm Yuletide wishes
   Sandie x
Sandra Peachey – Coach, Author and Director at Damsels in Success
Author of Peachey Letters – Love Letters to Life as featured in local press, Psychologies, The Lady & The BBC!
Winner at the 2013 ‘Women Inspiring Women’ Awards
Nominee in two categories in the ‘Association of Professional Coaches, Trainers & Consultants’ Awards, 2012 & 2013

Tel. 07921 494363

Letter to December

Dear December

Here you are… the clock and the calendar have ticked and clicked around to you yet again…

My December is the feeling of Christmas coming – a slow and relentlessly gorgeous anticipation of celebration, of receiving and of feasting.  Then there is the savoured future joy of family and friends coming together; of anticipated gifting and unwelcomed bloating.

That is December in my head and heart; and then there is the external twelfth month landscape too.  Sunlight and chill combine to crisp refreshment of the senses – the cold stinging us into action, so we must dance and cush through our outdoor chores to return as quickly as we can to the internal warmth and comfort of anti-cold, back to our own warm and cosy indoor comforts.

December’s outdoor world is alternatively gloomy and sunny.  I dive into the lush, sunny, crisply cold days. These days are meant for walking, and I devour them with all my senses – frost under foot, slickly wet autumnal leaves carpeting the ground, a lack of smell sense, bare and beautiful trees; ice skimming and then thickening the surfaces of puddles and ponds, widening as the thermometer dips…

These are my December days and as we troll down to the end of the year, the dark nights deepen and thicken and deprive us of daylight.  On past winter days I have risen in the dark, worked in caves of chores and returned back to my lair, hidden in the same darkness – a kind of celestial vampire, never seeing, and so starved of the sun.

Then somehow we contrive to bring the outside be-wintered December into our interiors.  Chopping down and dragging in fir trees or counterfeiting them with tinsel or plastic representations of their tree selves.  Then we spray and scatter pretended snow and bring in boughs of holly and mistletoe – the forgotten ghosts of our pagan past.

So my indoor world transforms to Christmas land with decorations collected over decades and added into every single year.  Boxes brought down from the dark attic, waiting their turn, and when opened, bringing with them joyous shocks of remembrance – a year of Christmas stored in the glistening darkness, germinated and then liberated to live in the Christmas light for a few shiny, glamorous weeks.  Then the cards trickle in and are displayed – from colleagues, cohorts and friends; from long lost cousins and nearly long lost friends of decades gone.

I love the preparations… I take and make them languorously and slowly, relishing the joy of Christmas transformation, dining and dancing, of presents wrapped to be deliciously unwrapped.  To choose the present that will delight the gifted one, that will make them pause and smile.  There are Christmas decisions to be made – whether to take the time trodden path of tradition or to spice it up with modernity; then again to take and shake all the elements together to make it MY chosen Christmas, a blend of me and of history?

My December is flavoured with gluttony and gastronomy.  Spices tingle and warm through mulled wine, mince pies and other wintery delicacies.  Chocolates rustle, jostle and abound.  Spirits chink in glasses and some seem reserved solely for Chringle tide – port and advocaat stay firmly at the back of my drunken cupboard for 11 months of the year, and then in December are opened, poured and appreciated in their own spiritual season.

December is winter through and through.  The distinct and distant possibility of snow can transform our outdoor world and seize up the systems of transport and safety – slipping us up, or blanketing our dull world with white ethereal beauty.

December is light and shade.  A tingled anticipation or a mangled realisation of misplaced expectation.  Expectation or negative association can be heavy and brutal, so consciously choose delicious anticipation and feel and fly through your own December.

So December is a choice, a feeling, a flux of emotions.  Choose wisely and craft your Christmas to you.  For all that your December is, I wish you joy of it, to love and revel in the now of it.

So dream your December, deem your December; live it and love it.

And so Dear December, another end here begins…

Yours, again and again.

  Sandra x

PS: As Christmas comes round and you are thinking of a gorgeous gift, a collection of my ‘Peachey Letters’ have been gathered together in book form.  It makes the perfect present, for you, family and friends… You can buy it on my website here or from Amazon (in Paperback and Kindle)

ImageTaken by me, on a wonderful winter walk by the River Avon…